My Approach

I assist people to change what at first may seem unchangeable.  I know this is a rather bold statement, but in my experience most people come to therapy after having already tried several times to resolve what is troubling them.  I offer an objective, professional perspective on your concerns.  Together, we will look at what you have already tried to do and what you have already done to resolve your concerns.

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We will explore your thoughts and feelings and create new ways of approaching your situation — concrete “next steps.” This is very useful, particularly when it feels like you’ve already tried everything.

I typically begin therapy by gathering information about what brought you in to see me.  This information gathering is important so that I may learn about you, those important to you, and what you want to accomplish in therapy.  I may gather information about other providers such as your primary care physician, previous counselors, other specialist care providers, and so on.  I do this so that our work together compliments the care that you may already receive.

Sometimes the work is very active with a lot of talking, a lot of observation (by me as well as self observation by you), and a lot of practice.  Other times, the work is more reflective, focusing you: where you have been, where you are now, and where you would like to be.  Quite often, I explain what I am doing, thinking, & feeling.  I will also frequently check-in with you about our work and progress.  I see therapy as a team effort.  It simply is not effective if only one of us is doing the work.  I may assign tasks or work between our sessions together.  These assignments are specially meant to fit each person.

All the while, I keep my eye on your goals.  Therapy can be brief and it can be longer term.  The time spent in therapy depends on your concerns, your goals, and our work together.  Effective therapy is not measured by how long you participate in it.

I enjoy working with couples, families, individuals, and groups.  Some areas of interest are:

  • Successful life transitions: marriage, children, coming out, moving, divorce, career changes, retirement, aging, death of loved ones/grief
  • Improving communication, assertiveness skills, self esteem,
  • Relationships: intimacy, sexual problems, in-laws/extended family, blended families
  • Parenting: adolescents/young adults, step families, children coming out, parents or other relatives coming out
  • Working with those who primarily care for others and those who may be in the public eye: clergy, public leaders, health care provider, attorneys, therapists/counselors
  • People in recovery — you’re clean and sober, now what?
  • Overcoming abuse, sexual molest, domestic violence, accidents/injury, sudden or drastic changes in health/functioning
  • Clinical supervision mentoring

For several years, I have provided therapy, consultation, education, and therapeutic services in a variety of settings including community counseling centers, high schools (public, private, as well as continuation), an in-patient psychiatric hospital, in-patient & out-patient drug & alcohol recovery centers, independent practice, graduate universities, county children & family services, county adult services, and county administration.